Purépecha Wedding Ceremony

In November, I was honored to be invited to my lovely friend Claudia’s wedding. The happy couple elected to have a traditional Purépecha wedding ceremony rather than a Catholic church wedding, as the groom is from Michoacán. It was an amazing experience. Words can’t do it justice, but I’ll try.

The guests formed a circle at the beginning of the ceremony, with the couple in the center. We placed our right hands over our hearts and extended the left towards the bride and groom, sending out love out to them. 

Afterward, the bride and groom stood behind the altar and a woman named Betti officiated, dressed in flowing white. She spoke about what it meant to become a family and the newlyweds’ responsibilities towards each other. 

A procession of family and friends approached with gifts and words of advice. One friend presented the couple with an antique key which represented how they should guard their hearts and only allow those worthy in. Three girls presented seeds. I couldn’t hear what they said, but I imagine it had to do with allowing love to grow. 

The entire ceremony was conducted outside with the couple barefooted so that there was continuous contact with Mother Earth. The four cardinal elements were represented. The burning copal and the sounding of the conch shell represented air. Earth was given by the fathers of the bride and groom so that they could put down roots. A friend presented water as he imparted words of wisdom to the couple about how they should always take the time to refresh and replenish one another. The mothers were the keepers of the sacred flame which they passed to the bride. 

Let me tell you, I’ve never been one to cry at weddings, but watching this, I wept! The other guests looked at me funny, but I didn’t care. Claudia was also overcome with emotion and cried throughout the ceremony.

A niece and nephew of the bride crowned the couple with flowers. Apparently, this tradition used to include a bread crown which has since been replaced with flowers. The ceremony itself is called tembúchakua, which translates loosely as “crowning.” 

Betti wrapped Claudia in a blue rebozo and told her that a woman’s lot was difficult. The rebozo would provide comfort as it reminded us of being wrapped in our mothers’ loving arms. The groom was draped in a sarape. He was instructed to take the bride under his sarape, symbolizing his role as protector and provider. 

Claudia and her new husband exchanged rings and vows. The parents stood behind the couple. The bride’s parents were behind the groom, accepting him as a son, and the groom’s parents were behind the bride, accepting her as a daughter. 

Then the new family was presented to the guests. There was food, music, drinks, and laughter as we celebrated this marriage. 

Later, when I had a chance to talk to Claudia, she mentioned how she and her husband had passed the “prueba” by living together for a year before marriage. Doing a little research, I found this custom is common among certain indigenous groups. This “matrimonio de prueba” is a year, and if both are willing, they marry. If not, then they go their separate ways without any problems or recriminations.

I’m beyond happy that Claudia found love, someone who will support her artistic endeavors and someone who can buffer her from herself. 

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New Children’s Book Release!!

And I’m starting off my 2023 year of “COMPLETE” with my first completion. I’m delighted to announce the first in what will hopefully be a series about 5-year-old Lupita. Claudia Guzes was, of course, the fantastic illustrator for these. 

Meet 5-year-old Lupita. Lupita lives in rural central Mexico y está muy emocionada to share her family’s special events contigo. Today, Lupita and her Abuelita are making a Rosca de Reyes and se están preparando para la llegada de Los Reyes Magos.

In celebration, both the Spanish and bilingual versions are FREE for the next few days. Pick up your copy and enjoy! (If you feel so inclined to leave a review, that would be so appreciated!!)

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Bruce Goodboy and the Puppers Move House

A few months ago, my husband decided that Bruce needed to move out of my sister-in-law’s backyard, where he’d been living since he found and adopted us earlier in the year. It’s not that she minded. In fact, she liked having a dog around, discouraging “rateros” from any B&E. She hasn’t moved out to La Yacata yet, and the house, nearing compilation, is sitting empty. And Bruce, well, he’s imposing, to say the least. His bark is resounding, his size is eye-widening, and anyone who didn’t know any better would think he’s a threat to their safety and wellbeing.

However, we know that Bruce is a good boy and isn’t interested in attacking anyone. 

Anyway, my husband would do things like take the house keys, which are supposed to be hanging in the kitchen, so we couldn’t get in to feed, water, or walk Bruce. After about a week of these shenanigans, we moved Bruce over to my son’s house. 

That, of course, caused even more lamentations because now, how could my husband possibly cook on his barrica (barrel) stove with a DOG on the premises? Whatever.

His next rant was about Fred and George Pupper in the backyard. They’d been living there for more than five years, but now all of a sudden, it was an issue. If my husband couldn’t cook at my son’s, then he’d move the barrica to the backyard and cook there, but the dogs had to go. It’s not like we don’t have a perfectly servable kitchen AND a grill area on the back porch upstairs or anything. 

Ok. Fine. Fred and George moved over to my son’s house too. No barrica has been installed for cooking in the backyard because the CHICKENS shit all over the place. But whatever.

Walk-time became more complicated. Now, when the boys go out for their promenade, it’s like the three-headed Cerberus emerging from Hell. Bruce, being really still a puppy, is so impatient and pulls at the leash, which disturbs the sanctity of the walk imposed by George and interferes with Fred sniffing new scents along the way. I’m sure though, everyone will get the hang of walking in tandem eventually. 

There have been some mishaps as well. George fell off the roof and onto the first-floor ledge and had to be coaxed back in. Bruce fell out the second-floor window onto the ground but was fine. Fred is mighty cautious and hasn’t fallen yet, but he did drop his skunk toy on the ledge and whined until it was returned to him. 

They also had to go “camping” back in my sister-in-law’s yard while the steps to the roof were being installed. However, all things considered, it’s been a positive change. The Puppers don’t have to deal with all the chickens crowding them out of their house. Bruce isn’t by himself anymore. Everyone got a thorough bathing before the move to the FLEA-FREE abode and are a lot more comfortable because of that. 

There’s been some fighting, mostly over my son’s attention when he’s over there. Everybody wants head pats and to crawl into his lap, although no one fits anymore and hasn’t for some time. In the early evenings, my son takes his guitar over and treats the boys to some music while they dine. 

My son has even introduced his boys to the girl he is sort of dating. Bruce behaved so well that it was like he was a different dog. He sat and allowed his leash to be put on, and on the walk, he didn’t pull at all. He’s such a good boy, you see! 

As it will probably take another year to complete the house, having the boys there isn’t a problem. Once the doors and windows go on though, some housebreaking might be in order. I’ve tried to encourage my son to start on that now, but he hasn’t. Oh well, he’ll have to do the cleanup.

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