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Book Review — Why We Left: An Anthology of American Women Expats compiled and edited by Janet Blaser

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Why We Left: An Anthology of American Women Expats is a collection of 27 essays written by women who relocated to Mexico. Some of the women may be familiar names. Roxana Bangura from the Bangura Chronicles wrote about raising her daughter as a polyglot in Mexico. Holly Hunter, the better half of Dan Gair, wrote about her side of the Mexico Diaries adventures. Dianne Hofner Saphiere from VidaMaz wrote about not being in Kansas anymore.

The women were honest about the struggles they had to create the life they love in Mexico. All of the women told their stories from the “other side” after prevailing against discrimination, income loss, relationship challenges, and just plain ol’ culture shock. All in all, it’s an inspiring “happy expat” read.

My hope is that this book does two things_ That it inspires others who may be feeling an urge, an itch, something deep down that just won't go away, to live a different life, outside of the proverbial box, where happ.jpg

So why did these women leave their home countries? Some left because of the current political climate. Others left to provide life experiences for their children they would not otherwise have. Some women came for the culture, others for the cost of living. Some lost their marriages to Mexico, others found love and stayed.

What did these women find in Mexico? Purpose. Simplicity. Patience. Confidence. Seem like pretty good trade-offs to me.

I would have liked to have seen more stories from women who chose voluntary exile after their spouses were deported, but then perhaps they don’t fit the criteria of “expats”. Most of the women in this anthology were also living in areas full of gringos or small towns near those epicenters, San Miguel de Allende, Mazatlan, Lake Chapala, Mexico City, Puerto Vallarta, Cozumel and so on. Perhaps that’s the book I need to write…

Regardless, Why We Left: An Anthology of American Women Expats is an interesting collection and I’m sure you’ll love reading about the process of crafting a life you love in Mexico as told by these 27 brave women.

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Write Your Story Day

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March 14 is National Write Your Story Day!

Have you considered writing about your life in Mexico?

If you have a story to share that would be of interest to readers and would like to see it published here at Surviving Mexico, you can go here for complete submission guidelines.

Where to begin? I know, it seems overwhelming. Why not start with just a day?

I’m pleased to announce that Surviving Mexico is now accepting submissions for the next edition of A Day in the Life — A Compilation from Women Creating a New Routine in Mexico. The world would love to hear your story!

If you haven’t already downloaded your free ebook, you can do so here.

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Modern Day Marias–Eva, a woman of faith

Were there times when Jose was unable to find work in the land of Egypt?  How did Maria manage the household expenses in times of need? Today I’d like to share the story of a woman whose faith in the face of adversity is truly inspiring.

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My name is Eva. I am from St. Louis, Missouri. My husband and I met when I was working at Walmart while in college. He was working on the cleaning crew there. My husband was deported in 2003 and we now live in Villahermosa, Tabasco with our four children.

Personally, I would say that I have changed for the better in many ways since moving to Mexico. I have learned to be happy with the bare minimum, to not be materialistic, to recycle and reuse. I have learned to repair everything until it just can not be repaired any longer. I have also mastered the skill of reinvention. I feel that I have grown as a person and that I continue to grow, every single day. There are still so many skills I have to master. I try to learn something new every day. I am a work in progress.

My relationship with my husband has not really changed since moving to Mexico. Every marriage has its challenges. That is just part of being married. It’s how you face those challenges that makes the difference.However, establishing a relationship with my in-laws in Mexico was hard, very hard. It got to the point that I just stopped trying and distanced myself and my children from them. My mother-in-law and father-in-law come to see them when they want to. We rarely go to their home.

My life has always been a challenge. I grew up without a family and lived in many different foster homes. I had 2 premature babies. We almost lost the first one 4 times in his first year of life. I have an autistic child. I moved to a completely different country. My sister-in-law poisoned one of my children. These days I don’t know if the rent will be paid or if food will be provided. Right now we are facing the loss of my husband’s job. He hasn’t been able to find one that can financially support our family of 6. We have been living on faith alone the last 8 months. God has the glory because he has never left or forsaken us. We have a roof over our heads and, at least, beans on our table. We are healthy and have each other so we can not complain. Life is always about ups and downs. I guess you could say my life is interesting. My faith in God and my love for my family keep me going. I am determined to persevere even in the most challenging of situations. I try not to look back. The past is the past for a reason. I believe the future has a better horizon.

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I spend my free time with my children, enjoying life, even if it is just a stroll in the park. Right now we are, unfortunately, at the hands of mercy due to my husband losing his job, but God is good and He always makes a way. Our current family goals include work for my husband in order to become financially stable so my children can get a good education and we can buy a home for them so they have somewhere to call home without being afraid someone is going to make them homeless.

I have four boys. Two were very small when we moved here and I was pregnant with my third at the time. Mexico is really all they have ever known. My children do have needs that have been difficult to meet right now due to my husband not working, especially for school. It has been difficult. At times, it feels impossible. I overcome my fear with the help of God and through prayer. I face it head on. Faith has always been a big part of my life. I have always believed in God. He is my rock. When times have gotten hard and I feel I can not go on any longer, God always pulls me through. My rock and my fortress. My children, my faith, and my family give meaning to my life. I would not change anything if I had it all to do over again. Everything happens for a reason.

I don’t have a GoFundMe page because we have tried to do that once and well, no one helped, so we have been going at it alone and letting God help us get through this.

“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.  Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.”  (Proverbs 31:27-30)

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